The Wind and Some Wisdom

I always like to believe that relationships aren’t just about sex, or marriage, or having 10 kids or however many you want. I mean, I get horny too, and I crave sex like every other animal on this planet. It’s just that I like believing that a relationship can be about just finding someone you really care about and connecting with them on a completely different level from everyone else in your life. I don’t know if I want to marry anyone right now or even ever, but I want someone to have that special connection with. Something that goes past that inner sexual desire and moves in a more interesting and fulfilling direction.

I’d like to believe that I’m the kind of guy who would just “sleep” with the woman he loved because she wasn’t ready for sex yet. I’d like to believe that if I can wait almost 18 years, I can wait a little bit longer. I’d like to believe that sex isn’t everything and that I’m okay with just being with someone. I think I’m there. I hope I’m that kind of guy now.

I hope I’m that kind of guy a year from now too. I hope respect for women and control over your sexual desires doesn’t go away.

The truth is we don’t really know until we get the chance to prove ourselves. Let’s hope I continue to be strong enough to be a bigger person.

(Originally written on June 6, 2013)

First off, I would like to say that I would like nothing more than to have a good relationship with you. To me, what that means is three people sitting down, discussing the “best” course of action rather than just trying to talk each other out of doing whatever is supposedly “wrong”. I want a relationship where instead of thinking about what we know and what we grew up with, we talk about how we can make sure that we’re all as happy as possible.

After all, that is the goal. We all want each other to be happy. No one likes being sad or angry. That’s why we get so upset at each other. That’s why you get upset at me when you think I’m doing something “wrong”. You care about my wellbeing and I really, really appreciate that. I want that to continue and I want the opportunity to include the people who care about me in my life. I want us to be able to speak openly and I want us all to have open minds. If we limit our possibilities from the start, how can we ensure that we find the best solution for everyone? Let’s make decisions with sound, rational thought, not blind obedience and tradition. Let’s discuss the limits and conditions of our decisions. Let’s talk about how we can make everyone as comfortable as possible. Making sure I’m happy doesn’t have to make your life suddenly uncomfortable and unbearable. If that’s what you think is happening, let’s talk about that.

The truth is, I don’t want a relationship like the one you have with my two other siblings. I don’t want to constantly have to hide things from you. I respect your experience and I value your input. I want to be able to come to you for advice and make you a part of my life.

At this point, you really can’t expect to make decisions for me. That’s just going to be destructive for everyone. What I want is for you to help me make decisions and be a part of my life without trying to run my life. That’s the goal isn’t it? You’ve been training me for almost 18 years to be able to handle myself and be happy. Now all I’m asking for is an opportunity to do that. I want to be happy and I want to include you as much as possible in that.

You and I are intelligent, sophisticated human beings who are capable of making rational, well thought-out decisions. I want to be happy, and I know that at the end of the day, you want that too. Instead of hiding and fighting, please, let’s just sit down and talk. I can’t blindly follow everything you tell me to do, but I want us to make decisions together from time to time. As I grow up, it would be a shame to go into the world alone knowing that I could have had two intelligent, experienced people backing me up and helping me make the best decisions possible.

I want to travel the world with a really smart, beautiful, cool and adventurous girl and just see and experience…everything. Amsterdam, Holland, India, Milan, Tokyo, South America etc. From the greatest cultural hubs to the smallest villages to the most remote waterfalls. I want to experience everything the world has to offer.

I want to experience freedom.

singingbanana:

Infinitely many twin primes? (I may be procrastinating today)

epic-humor:

meladoodle:

dreams are really weird because you don’t question the reality of them at all. like you could be being chased by a giant banana mafia and the only thing on your mind is ‘fuck, we gotta get to a blender pronto’

I enjoy killing people in my dream

fishingboatproceeds:

Hey, bro, cool story.

DFTBA sells a bunch of shirts, and we market to ugly people and nerdy people and small people and big people and pretty people and we’re doing okay and plus we don’t need physical stores with LITERALLY THE WORST MUSIC EVER CREATED BY HUMANS PLAYING AT EAR-BLEEDING VOLUME SO THAT ALL OF YOUR PURPORTEDLY COOL AND BEAUTIFUL EMPLOYEES ARE MADE DEAF BY THEIR WORKING CONDITIONS.

So that’s another way of doing it.

Also I hate your jeans.

psychcomedy:

Identifying key issues of modern parenting

(via psychcomedy)

potterhead:

why have you done this to me

This is why I can’t lose weight.

(via youmaysayimadreamerbutim)

reasonablycontradictory:

Inspired by Thursday’s DailyGrace.

(via gracehelbig)

Everyone (at least subconsciously) has a list: smart, beautiful, funny, etc. They list basic qualities in other people that they think are desirable. In my experience however, I’ve found, when it comes down to it, it’s less about a list and more about just finding someone who appreciates “you”.

Not someone who just appreciates your good qualities, but someone who likes ALL of you. We all have “quirks” that make us just a little bit insecure. That’s why all we really seem to want is for someone to accept and like us for those quirks. We all just want to feel more comfortable. We’re going to choose the person who makes us the most comfortable with who we are and what we’re like—list or no list. I’m not saying that you should abandon your list—it’s good to have standards—I’m just saying that you should go with the person who makes you feel better about just being you.

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When I think of your “quirks”, I think of your clumsiness, your dislike of your accent, and your forgetful nature. The thing is, when I look at you, these qualities just aren’t all that “quirky”. I think they just add to your infinite cuteness. :) I think your accent is extremely sexy, and in my mind, it’s okay to forget things or get confused from time to time. I love that you’re made up of all kinds of little things, some good and some less than perfect. It’s ALL of these qualities that make you so damn wonderful. :)